Unfortunately, there’s no way I can talk him into it (we’re not close), and my sister is left holding this terrible secret while her bewildered kids watch their parents’ marriage crumble with no clue why.
BIL needs to gay-man up and admit the truth to himself and the rest of his family and start the healing process. Their kids have been informed about the divorce but not about their father’s boyfriend. But she recently filed for divorce and told our parents and me what’s been going on. My sister has apparently known about this arrangement for four years but has kept it a secret for the kids’ sake. He has a boyfriend but is still very much closeted and denies he is gay. I’m sure you already saw this plot development coming: it turns out BIL has been far more “probable” than I thought. my brother-in-law, in the “improbable” bucket because he actively wooed my sister, was clearly in love with her, and fathered four boys with her, all in their late teens now. She’s been married for a bit over two decades to a guy who always registered as a “possible” on my average-to-good gaydar.
I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s.
